what i keep telling people.

Keep your options open

One thing i learnt is that availability is one of the greatest abilities, so don't get tied down to just about anything that comes your way. Practise some form of quality management and you'd find that your life will turn in the direction that you wish it to go.

Most people just jump into situations, when what they really should be is to hang back a bit, because there'll always be something around the corner that'll make you go 'hey, i should've gone for that' give it time if you've some to spare, or you'll regret it, almost all the time. Negativity in goal-setting does not work, so try phrasing it more to the 'yes' than the 'no'

For example.

If you wanna quit smoking, you can't say, I will stop smoking. because the sentence just makes you think of smoking. hence, it almost never works because everytime you see the statement, you think of smoking. its like me telling you to stop thinking about your left foot. see, you can't stop thinking about it. our brain's pretty complex, i'm just messing with you.

So instead, you say something like i will smoke 1 stick a day. that way, you have something to work towards. 1 stick, 24 hours. stick to it and it'll work wonders. then try working on a replacement, like drinking water everytime you get the cravings.

because we all know smoking is bad for you.